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Invitation To Wait

Posted on February 29th, 2012

I read this chapter in Invitations from God a couple of weeks ago and I have been mulling over the truth ever since. I think we all can relate–whether we’re waiting on pregnancy, a job, marriage, healing…the list goes on and on!

Invitations from God by Adele Ahlberg Calhoun, pgs 135,137, 143, 145, 147, 148:

“Waiting is one of God’s immensely sweeping invitations. To wait expectantly and with open hands requires a relinquishment of control that gets at the roots of our motivations, fears, and idolatries. It is where we learn that God isn’t a genie and that happiness is not a matter of God meeting our expectations. While we wait, we can sense the naked vulnerability of trust…

Waiting unearths what is in our hearts. It exposes what happens when our expectations go unmet…Waiting for God is rooted in the expectancy that He is actually coming through on His word–even when we can’t see it. Expectant waiting requires an openness to something good happening beyond our expectations. Expectations are what get us into trouble while we wait. We expect God to do thing in a certain way. We have expectations about timing: our timing. Expectations bind our happiness to one particular end…

When the heart is filled with expectations, waiting is calculated and close-minded. However, when the heart is expectant, waiting can be spontaneous and anticipatory of the future God desires for me even if it is different from the one I want. Often it is in the waiting that the heart’s motivations become clear. As the time lengthens and what we want isn’t forthcoming, we see how attached we are to our own expectations and time table…

The space between desire and demand is a risky waiting place. It is the place where we go to wait with God and let go of control. The place t desire and demand can hold longings, disappointments, loss, unmet expectations, joys and deep gratitude. It is the place where we learn to attach ourselves fully to God’s will rather than our own so that we can wait with open hands with hope and trust…

As I long for [the] things [I wait for], I need to step into the space between demand and desire and wait with God. In that graced and sometimes painful place, expectations can give way to expectancy and an open-ended waiting on God’s goodness. God’s goodness anchors my waiting. It is not a matter of if God’s goodness will come through; it’s only a matter of when…

If you are waiting, it doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong. It doesn’t mean that God hasn’t heard you. It’s not a waste of time. God is at work making you into a person with the character and integrity that you need in order to participate in His dream for this world. You are in a moment in which you are developing a discerning, expectant heart.  You are in a place where you can contemplate evidence of the unseen hand of God and grow in trust. Between desire and demand, the Holy Spirit gates at us and gives us grace–grace to wait and to see when God answers our prayers, not if.”

May we wait well with expectant hearts.

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